Couples: (All identifications & orientations!)
Together, we safely navigate the space between.
I coach couples who are at a pivotal point in their relationships, and who are willing to take a deep dive into their own personal patterns on behalf of their relationship, at any stage.
This can be scary to think about, often because we think we have to be in crisis in order to receive help. Maybe your relationship is on fire in the worst way, or maybe you want to light it on fire in the best way, creating more intimacy and connection! I'm here to help you navigate the next healing steps.
I’m not scary. I’m real, to be very clear, and you will be challenged, as this work is deep. And, that’s who it’s for. It’s only for those that really want to know what their love relationship (and they themselves) are truly made of. I’ve got you. I hold this container very safely for us to go there.
You know, those things you’ve been thinking forever but not saying - we go there. It’s the only way to break your patterns. But again, I’ve got you. You’ll thank me. ;)
There is opportunity in everything. Whether you are growing together, or consciously separating, there is opportunity to grow in personal integrity, develop communication skills, decrease stress levels in the nervous system, increase peace and connection, and to embody forgiveness and compassion.
When mindful tools (such as observation, heart-centered compassion, emotional awareness, conscious communication) are applied to relationships, a lot can happen, because each person is more emotionally regulated! You need to learn to genuinely calm and care for yourself before you can learn to successfully communicate and get your needs met.
I have a map for building connection. And it's damn effective.
We start with independent, parallel coaching where each member of the partnership learns to closely notice their own patterns of reactivity. In this way, we avoid finger pointing and move toward compassion more easily. We then move into distinguishing why we want what we want, establishing effective communication (I have a different method for this), and practicing non-judgement, forgiveness, and mirroring concepts. And, of course, there’s more. The result is a powerful connection you've not experienced in quite some time... or ever.
These tools will evolve your relationship. And you, personally. You will find yourselves MUCH more willing to love without condition, much more open to honoring one another’s personal truth, and meeting your goals as a couple.
I also work with you somatically. Don’t worry, I’ll explain. We watch how the body is responding in times of vulnerability, and that gives us many clues about the quality of connection. You can heal trauma patterns that are stored in the body through safe relationship & union. It’s quite profound.
We are in an interesting time, historically. We’ve collectively decided (celebrate!) that the repression of all things feminine just won’t do. Women are rising up and both men and women are unsure what this means. I want to help couples take their relationships, based in an old-paradigm relationship dynamic, into next-level love. Actualized. I call this evolutionary love. It’s when two independent Souls honor one another, allow space for the authenticity of one another, and also grow together.
If you and your partner are “okay” but you’re not terribly excited about the prospects given the status quo, spend three months with me. We’ll ignite what you are mutually capable of. And in my opinion, these relationships are going to be the seeds for the truest change on the planet - because they come from heart.
And because Soul Union isn’t always forever, I work with couples who are seeking a conscious separation and I support the entire family:
Your relationship may have high tendencies of blame, miscommunication and misunderstanding, volatility, and disappointment. You may be going round and round about the same issues with your partner. You love them, but don't see how this can possibly work.
I will take you from disdain to cooperation. We can work together to ensure the kids will be okay, and that you don’t have to spend the next ten years in hostility.
If you and your partner are mutually willing to allow my guidance, I will go to the difficult places with you in a way that few others ever would. Honoring that relationships are sacred, that children are often involved, and that much is at stake, I coach couples with fairness, clarity, and reverence. Your relationship matters, and before there is more divisiveness, stuckness, or hopelessness, contact me. It is possible to separate consciously, with compassion and forgiveness actively at play by the time we’re complete.
I will also work with you on parenting and establishing family meetings during this difficult time.
As a couple's coach, I combine archetypal principles of masculine/feminine dynamics and my ability to see the whole picture, and I provide a deep-level analysis and reflection. All of my coaching is responsive and specific to each couple’s needs. I sit with you as you practice these new skills & conversations and integrate them into your relationship.
Your relationship becomes more conscious and connected as a result of our combined efforts.
You will not believe what’s possible. It’s so powerful. Spend three months with me and see what your relationship is really made of.
My couple's program is twelve weeks, with a commitment made up front. I coach each of you and your relationship. You let me IN, and as you allow yourself to trust me and the process, you experience healing, freedom, clarity, and connection.
A consult is required for this work. I look forward to meeting you.
Let's get started.
Private 2-day retreats in a neutral, private mountain retreat home are available now. See Retreats Page. Send me a private email to discuss or set up a consultation. This can be in addition to my remote couples work, or stand alone.
*While I am very interested in working with the archetypal notions of masculine & feminine, I do not discriminate whatsoever with any client, individual or couple, based on gender, sexual preference, or identification with any binary. I work with humans and the human soul.