Men

I started out as a women's coach. I did. 

Because I am a woman and because I've walked this walk of rediscovering my own femininity; what it's like to be a female in this body and this world. 

BUT, it was shortsighted. I'm sorry, men. 

Because, the truth is, I've always been drawn to working with men. The truth is, I worked a career in eduction always drawn first to the mysteries of adolescent males. That population sandwiched my educational career, actually. 

The truth is, we can't do women's work without also doing men's work, and there needs to be a massive rebalance right now. Do you feel that need? 

For a long time, I was one of those disheartened-yet-hopeful women. While I've lived a life where I could choose to blame men for my problems or internal conditions, I actually don't choose to do that. 

Because, deeply, more than anything, what I want is a healthy rebalancing of the feminine with the masculine, the yin with the yang. 

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Does this mean that I want to "feminize" you? Nope. It does mean that we need a healthy reintegration of the feminine - but that's needed in society at large. 

But I see you too, men. I see that there's this era of "Me Too" and the feminine rising, and there's a lot of confusion for men around how to respond and fit into that. I see that you're simultaneously craving and cursing women. I see that for many of you, it started with your mothers. I see that you are quieted by overpowering women, maybe even just as frequently or more than you are overpowering them. I see that there are not places for these conversations - and I hope to be someone who can invite a change where that is concerned. 

So here's my offering to you. I'll be your female coach. A lot can happen in this space - where you actually allow a woman to hold space for you, allow a healthy woman to encourage and safely challenge you, where you allow yourself to get vulnerable. A lot happens as you are seen, and our work together grows your healthy masculinity. 

Yep, I said it. 

But you're going to have to do your work. I'm here to see your innate strength and hold you accountable, and you're going to need to search your soul, get clear about how it is you really want to show up, and take significant action. 

Are you tired of showing up for women and wondering why they don't see you as good enough? Are you wondering what your place is anyway, if women are declaring they don't "need" a man? Maybe you went through or are going through a divorce and questioning your worth. Maybe you're feeling inferior at work, tired of the common interpretations on what it means to be masculine, tired of feeling like you have to be strong when really you feel unsure so much of the time. 

Yeah. I see you. 

And I believe in you. Absolutely. 

There's a space in you that doesn't feel good enough. Together, we will find it, and tenderly, we will incorporate it safely into the adult version of you that you yearn to be. 

Please see the testimonial below, written from a male client. 


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Going into my work with Sarah, I was EXTREMELY apprehensive. in a long-term relationship that was failing, questioning everything--and I do mean EVERYTHING--stressed, disconnected, alone.

Sarah was my last-ditch effort.

For real. I was pricing out single-wides and prepping for the inevitable end of my marriage.

I resisted everything she said. Everything she asked. I *did* it, sure, but I never wanted to and had to fight, fight, fight myself to engage enough to do any work.

I "quit" multiple times in the first month.

She didn't.

I felt like a hurting little boy. She saw that. But, she also saw a strong, powerful man behind that scared and hurting little boy. A powerful man I kind of sensed but couldn't really believe in.

She met both of them.

With love and compassion.

Don't read that to mean she coddled me. Quite the opposite.

She challenged me, but gently.

She pushed me, but lovingly.

Most importantly, she supported me.

My life would have been SO different if I'd had her input years (decades) ago.

In ways that I can't even really explain, she's helped me to connect with the true source of big (huge), loving, confident masculine energy that I never connected with before.

And here's the thing. What she does isn't formulaic. Exercises and assignments she asks for may be, but the process is not. She customizes and shifts based on what's going on with you overall.

She HEARS you.

Read that sentence again.

SHE hears YOU.

A woman who hears and feels where you are coming from. And she can translate that (and help you learn to translate it) to your woman.

THAT is her gift. She translates between the masculine and feminine energies. She can honor you and call you on your bullshit (and you know you need to be called on it) AT THE SAME TIME.

She can hear what you say and translate the essence to your woman in a way that SHE will be able to hear.

Working with Sarah is not easy. In fact it's the hardest thing I've ever done.

But it's also the most beneficial and rewarding thing I've ever done.

Regardless of your on-paper relationship status, if you want to be deeply, appreciatively, passionately (not porn "passion" but real, soulful passion) in your relationship, work with Sarah.

I didn't want to. I still don't *want* to.

But the bottom line is if you do, you'll be better. And when YOU are better, everything else in your life is better. Most especially your relationship to the feminine.

I promise it's SAFE to be vulnerable with her-- I really, really promise. And the juice only comes when you squeeze with the pressure of vulnerability. Being authentically you--which is what Sarah will help you do--is THE way. The only one.