WHEN WE STOP ATTEMPTING TO CONTROL THE CONDITIONS OF OUR LIVES AND LEARN HOW TO DANCE WITH WHATEVER COMES OUR WAY, WE BECOME MORE AVAILABLE, WE BECOME MORE LOVING, AND WE SET OURSELVES FREE. CAN YOU IMAGINE THIS?
You’re standing in the living room after another fight with your teenager or husband, wondering how it got to be like this. Or maybe you’re five years into raising kids and it’s unbearably draining, and where do you admit something like that? So you hold in your exasperation, feeling like you are the only one. Or maybe your child needs more care than you can give, and you are awash with a constant mix of shame and anger while trying to cling to hope.
You’re looking around at the conditions of your life, questioning how it got to be like this. You thought motherhood would be much different. I get that. I am a mother and have worked with countless other mothers - we are all trying to get it right, and most of the time we are not confident that we are. It is heartbreaking.
Or in your career…. you are a rock star but feel inadequate. You have the skills but feel underutilized, underappreciated, and underpaid. You bring your voice of experience, but you don’t seem to be heard or understood. You experience small victories, but you leave work each day feeling that your efforts have no real impact. You’re depleted.
You are working and parenting, doing everything and then some to succeed, but you still don’t feel fulfilled — like something is missing. You’re beyond exhausted. The feedback that you are getting from your children and your spouse seems to perpetuate your feelings of anxiety and inadequacy.
YOU HAVE BEEN PLAYING BY THE RULES BUT NOT WINNING. YOU BEEN STRIVING FOR THE NEXT PROMOTION OR THE NEXT RUNG ON THE LADDER, BUT STILL FEEL UNFULFILLED. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
You are right, something is missing, but it’s not your effort. You may be missing compassion for yourself and for the girl you once were — the one you put on the shelf because it was demanded of you, in one way or another, to compromise -- your passion, your enthusiasm, your own purpose. It was, of course, well intended.
Women are central to the inner workings of family and work even if this world is not ready to admit it. Woman, I’m calling to you now - the depleted, burnt out, wise, wise woman who is too exhausted for this to continue.
It was never supposed to be like this. And when you take your life back, you change who you are and why you live the way you do, and you change life for women on this planet.
I know how you feel, because I used to feel this way, too. Through a lot of deliberate work, I have come a long way and I am SO MUCH MORE satisfied. I even find pleasure, on a regular basis. And I couldn’t be more excited to share with you what I’ve discovered — or uncovered, because the answers are, in fact, already inside you.
I work with women who are ready to change their lives now. You can feel differently in every moment even if your conditions stay the same. But you’ll probably want to change your conditions too. ;)
I use a responsive, connected approach based in mindfulness. See here. This is powerful work. This is where change happens. This is where I will sit in the fire with you, as painful as the reality currently is, and we find what you’re looking for.
You CAN align with your heart’s desire. You CAN live without sacrificing yourself. You CAN honor the voice inside of you, now.